Living Spousal Union as Mothers of the Cross

Lourdes shares from her heart with the mothers of the cross what it means to enter spousal union with Christ.

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Spousal Union

Reflection 1

Spousal union is reached by the souls who enter the fire of the Sacred Heart to participate with Jesus in His agony of love that He continues living in the Tabernacles of the world.

Every spouse is clothed in the white gown of purity, adorned with the jewels of the virtues of humility, simplicity, poverty, trust, gentleness, obedience, and above all, persevering love. Her face is veiled, representing that she belongs to Christ, and therefore, she permits Him to unveil her from her many interior disguises to receive the kiss on the lips of unity.

The love of spouses is consummated on the bed in the bridal chamber. Jesus's brides must follow Him to the bed of the Cross to be crucified with Him, of all self-love, self-will, pride, fears, disorders, and everything that is not pure love. The crucifixion of Christ's bride as one with Him completes the holy consummation, and they become one, no longer two, enjoying the sacred bliss in the unity of the love of the Most Holy Trinity.

The Lord has now brought us, His little mustard seed, to the 3^rd nail of the crucifixion. Mary has been preparing us in the cloister of her Immaculate Heart for the past three years by teaching and guiding us in growing in silence, helping us persevere continuously in remaining in the sorrows of her Son suffering as one heart with Him, maturing us in the virtues of simplicity and the spirit of poverty, and clothing us in perfect obedience, which is the essence of perfect love.

On October 15^th, 2025, Jesus spoke to us about spousal intimacy and shared the secret to true, lasting spousal intimacy. He said:

Now, My beloved, I draw you into the fire of My Sacred Heart to reveal to you My sorrows, for this is where spouses live intimacy. On earth, few spouses enter intimacy because they are incapable of sharing their deepest sorrows of the heart with each other, and of participating in the love of suffering with each other as one heart.I, the Bridegroom, on the other hand, long for a spouse, like My Mother, who was willing to enter My Sacred Heart and come to know all of My sorrows, and in this way, come to experience My divine love.

Few married couples experience the intimacy of the heart because either the husband or the wife, or both, are incapable of entering their own hearts to discover and live their deepest sorrows. At times, if one partner is attentive to their pain and longings of the heart, they might not share this pain with the other because of fear of being vulnerable, fear of being misunderstood, rejected, or ridiculed, and therefore, choose to remain closed to their partner. This lack of vulnerability between couples creates an emotional distance, a barrier to love and intimacy. They might enjoy DOING many things together, and even enjoy sexual intimacy, but lack the deepest, most fulfilling intimacy of hearts.

Then Jesus expresses to us the longing of His Heart as the Bridegroom. He longs for a Bride like His Mother who is willing to enter His Sacred Heart and come to know each of His sorrows personally. In this way, Jesus says, Mary comes to know His love intimately.

Jesus is also teaching us, through His vulnerability of Heart, that true lasting intimacy, which is what makes married couples one flesh, has another component– to participate in the love of suffering with each other as one heart. As couples listen to each other’s pain, receive the other’s pain without judgment, or try to fix the other’s pain, they EMBRACE the other's pain and suffer with the other. This is what Jesus has been teaching us for years, since the beginning of the Simple Path, and it is also what fosters intimacy among married couples, family members, community members, and friends.

Then Jesus continues in this message to reveal to us, His little brides, His sorrow and the “continuous lament of the Bridegroom.” Jesus is trusting His Heart to us, His victim souls, His bride, making Himself totally vulnerable as the God-Man to us, and desiring with all His Heart for us to enter, and receive His sorrows and remain suffering with Him, for His greatest longing is to be one with us, no longer two, TOTAL UNION of spouses!

Today, I reveal to you the sorrow of the Bridegroom, who finds such few brides, who desire to know My pain, my deepest agony of Heart, and to remain suffering with Me, of course, unable to take away My grief, but who, for love of Me, choose to remain suffering with Me solely for love of Me and souls.

Every son and daughter of God Father was destined by Him to become My spouses, for the Church is My Bride, yet how few become My spouses and enter unity with God. This is the continuous lament of the Bridegroom, your beloved Spouse, and therefore your faithfulness as My spouse is a continuous consolation to My suffering Heart.

This first reflection of our encounter is preparing our hearts to enter the inner chamber of the Bridegroom’s Heart to live, through the fullness of the graces of His passion, death, and resurrection, not only greater intimacy with Him, but ultimately to be consumed in Him and through Him in the life of the Most Holy Trinity.

These words from our Lord came to my heart during my silent retreat in October of 2025. Jesus asked:

What do you say to your Beloved as you sit with Me, gazing at Me?

Take the time tonight and tomorrow morning to answer this question by first pondering Jesus’ sorrows deeply expressed in this message.

As you answer the questions below, it is very important that you do not censor your own feelings. Try to be TOTALLY REAL with yourself and Christ. If you do not feel anything, or if you feel anger, frustration, shame… do not repress these feelings, but allow them to surface and just allow yourself to feel them and share them with Jesus. Jesus is never scandalized by our transparency and authenticity; in fact, this total frankness with ourselves and God is what develops into true love and intimacy.

-       Are you able to enter His pain and His longing of Heart?

-       What is taking place in your own heart as you ponder Jesus’ Heart? What are you feeling? Receive His sorrows and just suffer them with Him.

-       Now it is your turn to get in touch with the deepest, most consuming sorrow of your heart. Allow your pain to surface; if tears come, do not repress them, but allow them to flow. Be attentive to what is taking place in your heart. Remember, do not censor your emotions, do not allow the lies of Satan to tempt you by telling you that what you are feeling is wrong, sinful, vain, or superficial.

-       What is the deepest desire, longing of your heart at this moment in your life? No censoring! If it is not a spiritual desire, that is absolutely OK. Whatever it is, a desire for a job, a future spouse, or healing, etc., share that with your Lord. He loves it when we are real and honest with Him.

-       Now look at your most important relationships, with your spouse and/or your dearest friends. How do you struggle sharing your deepest pains with them? Can you describe in detail and with confidence the deepest pains of your loved ones? What in me makes it difficult for loved ones to share their deepest things of the heart with me? Our obstacles in our human relationships are likely insightful with regards our obstacles to a deeper spousal union with Him.